Swingers Story
Advice on swinging, my swingers story…
Discussing Your Fears
Jan 19th
Discussing your fears with your partner is something that is going to be crucial in any serious relationship. Being able to share your fears with your partner is very intimate and will really shed light on who you really are to them. This is something that may be difficult at first but you will find that once you open up you will feel a lot better.
Relationship Fears
Sharing your ultimate fears in a relationship is something that is very important if you want your relationship to grow at all. Tell them that you are scared of being lied to or that you are terrified of getting left or cheated on. There are a lot of different fears out there, share yours with your partner.
Long Term Fears
If your parents do not have a good relationship with each other and this frightens you for yourself then tell this to your partner. You will find that letting them know that you can recognize a bad relationship when you see one, no matter how close it is is a good sign. They need to know what your worries and fears are for the future.
Overall Fears
Telling them that you are scared of clowns or spiders is something that may be a little bit easier for you to share with your partner. Letting them know what your everyday fears are will help you two to determine who is on spider duty and a mutual understanding of avoiding the carnival all together.
Checking Out Other People – Is This Acceptable?
Dec 18th
Being in a relationship is hard enough, but add in a partner who likes to scope others out while you are together, and the recipe is for disaster. If you are single, then there is nothing wrong with it. But when partnered, there are a few things to think about.
Leading to Esteem Issues
You may think it’s harmless to check out others while with a partner, after all, you’re going home with your partner. However, it can lead to issues in the relationship later. Your partner can start to feel worthless, ugly, and overall not good enough. This is disrespectful and can harm the relationship.
Is it Normal?
It’s human nature to want to look at those we find attractive. If you go out of your way to crane your head, or stop a conversation dead in its tracks to turn around, this isn’t normal. Try to watch yourself to see just how often you do this. If it’s more often than not, then you need to rethink your relationship. Why do you need to keep looking if you have a great partner already?
Dealing With It
If you’re on the other end of this and your partner is constantly checking out other people, there are a few things you can do. First, point out the behavior. They may not even realize they are doing it. If that doesn’t work, tell your partner how this hurts you. They may not have thought about that, and expect you to check others out as well. It’s also important to understand that being in a relationship doesn’t render you blind. You will see others that you find attractive and may look as well. Don’t be overly harsh if there isn’t a real problem.
Swinging Sites Advice
Nov 6th
Finding a good swinging site can be difficult with so many sites devoted to Swinging. There are things to look for in a good site though. Here are a few things to consider looking for.
Free Trials
A free trial membership will allow you to explore the site with limited functions. You may not be able to post messages or contact other swingers, but it will give you time to see how many people are in your area and to get used to the sites functionality. Try to find sites that allow you to browse for free, or at least give you a few days before you are charged. Membership fees can also usually be paid in increments, so you can choose a month to month option, a few months, or even a year. Some sites will also have different levels of memberships, with higher paid options allowing for more communication and features.
Additional Options
A good site will have articles and forums. This allows you to understand more about the lifestyle, and see real issues that people have. This can also be a great benefit to those who are new to the lifestyle. You can read what others have experienced and start to understand exactly what to expect.
Meetings
Some sites will allow users to meet up in a safe place every so often. These events will usually cost money, but you are provided with a safe and private place to practice. This is another good feature to look for.
How to Start Swinging?
Oct 6th
If you are interested in alternative lifestyles, swinging may appeal to you. Swinging is the act of sharing sexual partners with other couples. If you are in a relationship where jealousy isn’t an issue, swinging may be a great way to explore alternative sexual experiences.
Talk to Your Partner
You don’t want to surprise your partner with a membership to a swingers club. Instead, try to incorporate some movies or videos that showcase swinging. Gauge your partners reactions. If they seem mildly interested, allow this to open up a conversation.
Set Some Rules
Before you embark on the new lifestyle, make sure you and your partner have clear cut expectations and rules. You may only want them to swing with you around. You may be open to allowing them to have sex with others without your presence. Either way, this conversation is important to avoid major issues later.
Be Realistic
While you may have fantasies about meeting supermodels, this isn’t going to happen. Swingers are everyday people, just like you. You will find people of all races, shapes, and sizes who participate in the swinging community.
Join a Club
Swingers clubs can be found all over the world. Most clubs will have a private location and host parties a few times a year. A simple internet search will show you the clubs in your areas, when they have events, what the costs of membership are, and what the expectations are. Many times you can go to events as a guest for a lower cost. This will allow you to see first hand what swinging is about before you make the decision to try it out.
Join a Website
There are many great sites out there, the great thing about joing a site is that you can read the forum posts, look at profiles and generally figure out how you would like to swing, here are the ones that we ould recommend;