Being in a relationship is hard enough, but add in a partner who likes to scope others out while you are together, and the recipe is for disaster. If you are single, then there is nothing wrong with it. But when partnered, there are a few things to think about.

Leading to Esteem Issues

You may think it’s harmless to check out others while with a partner, after all, you’re going home with your partner. However, it can lead to issues in the relationship later. Your partner can start to feel worthless, ugly, and overall not good enough. This is disrespectful and can harm the relationship.

Is it Normal?

It’s human nature to want to look at those we find attractive. If you go out of your way to crane your head, or stop a conversation dead in its tracks to turn around, this isn’t normal. Try to watch yourself to see just how often you do this. If it’s more often than not, then you need to rethink your relationship. Why do you need to keep looking if you have a great partner already?

Dealing With It

If you’re on the other end of this and your partner is constantly checking out other people, there are a few things you can do. First, point out the behavior. They may not even realize they are doing it. If that doesn’t work, tell your partner how this hurts you. They may not have thought about that, and expect you to check others out as well. It’s also important to understand that being in a relationship doesn’t render you blind. You will see others that you find attractive and may look as well. Don’t be overly harsh if there isn’t a real problem.